Letter to a friend

Here is a letter I wrote to a friend. I realized that it was good advice for myself as well. Here it is... good advice for everyone.

Friend, if I teach you anything let it be to never be afraid of making a mistake because you're going to make one no matter what. And never be afraid of getting hurt because we are meant to go through this life with a broken heart. We need to be constantly be peeling off the scar tissue from our hearts so that we can stay open to the world. We are here to feel. Good and bad, we are meant to feel it all. Most habits or neurosis or addictions are developed as a way to cope with, hide from, or numb unpleasant feelings. Don't run from them. Remember: the spirit itself beareth witness with our spirit that we are the children of God, and if children, then heirs, heirs of God and joint-heirs with Christ if so be that we suffer with him, that we may also be glorified together. (Romans 8:16-17)

I guess the point is to remember that we all have a bitter cup to drink. And if we're trying to be like Jesus then we need to drink the dregs. Always give of yourself completely to everyone no matter what the Nates of the world have done (but don't cast your pearls before swine). Most of the time you'll be rejected and maybe it will never work out, but in dating as in marriage, always trying again is more important than getting it right. I call it drinking the dregs of the cup of dating... and it's hard to do. But the cup of marriage is far more sweet and far more bitter so be glad you aren't blessed with it yet.

Love you,

J.S. Guy